![]() If it is a nightly thing that she wants to “touch the nurse,” then it has become a habit that you probably need to move toward breaking, although nothing worth traumatizing her over. If her requests are diminishing, then there is really nothing to worry about at all. So if she is clingy, just give her lots of extra reassurance and realize that this is the final stage of weaning. Your breasts symbolize comfort and safety and love to her, not sexuality, and she is still very small. Please don't worry that it isn't good for her. My advice would be to keep your breasts covered, but to not make a big deal about it if she wants to touch them. I am happy to say she is also very comfortable in her own body, which is not always true of girls this age. She has long since forgotten about my breasts and for years now has had zero interest in my naked body. ![]() However, my daughter has just turned 12 and seems clearly into boys. I share all this because I joked at the time with my close friend, who happens to be gay, that my daughter would certainly become a lesbian since she was so fixated on breasts. I also kept it out of bed or snuggle time, so for instance, I made sure she was standing up, not all cozy, which would have made it simply too much like nursing for her. It was so warm and cozy.” My policy was to let her touch my breasts if she asked, as long as it never seemed like a habit (for instance, needing to stroke them so she could sleep would have been a problem for me.) But her requests were irregular, and diminished over time. As she said, dreamily, a year or so after weaning, “I had a dream about having mimi. This did help, but it really did take several years before she completely lost interest. (The latter consisted of a quick kiss, since she seemed not to actually remember how to nurse.) I decided to keep my breasts covered as much as possible to help her forget about my breasts, and in fact remember deciding to wear teeshirts instead of tank tops the summer after weaning. For several years afterwards, she was somewhat fixated on my breasts, wanting to see and touch them, and even to “try” to nurse several times over the years. I nursed my daughter until she was three. There is no research that I am aware of on the effect of nursing on sexual orientation, but girls all over the world are nursed, until age 3 on average, and there is no higher incidence of lesbianism in those countries. Sexual orientation is innate, or at least all the research points in that direction. It is very common for toddlers to need to touch their mother's breasts for comfort or to fall asleep for as much as a year after weaning. We don't acknowledge it in this culture, but weaning can be traumatic for little ones. Meg is still quite young and weaning is pretty recent, so this is completely normal behavior. If you have any advice, thank you so much! If you know where I can go, please let me know. It really hasn't decreased much since she weaned. But my fear is that it may affect her sexual development, and be a problem if she continues to do this. I think it's just remnants of nursing, and that she may not have been completely ready to wean. How long could this last, and is it not good for her? I worry about sexuality issues from looking/wanting to touch my nipples. ![]() Since summer, with less "clothing" as in tank tops for me, etc, she seems to be more clingy and wanting to "touch the nurse" much more frequently. By touch the nurse, she just wants to touch my ually just before bedtime primarily, which was part of the last nursing that we did. Since that time, she has wanted to "touch the nurse" as she used to call it. We ended it back in the beginning of March. I nursed Meg up until she was 2 1/2 yrs old. I am not sure if you write on breastfeeding at all, but I need to ask someone. ![]() I wrote during my daughter Meghan's potty training and your advice really helped.
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